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Chilli heat comes from capsaicin, which does not dissolve in water but dissolves readily in fat and alcohol. That single fact tells you everything about what will help and what will not.

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What to do now

  1. Add dairy. Yoghurt, cream, coconut milk, soured cream or butter. Fat dissolves capsaicin and carries it away from the receptors, and milk proteins bind to it. By far the most effective fix.
  2. Add more bulk. More of everything else — vegetables, pulses, tomatoes, stock. Dilution works, though it takes a lot.
  3. Add something sweet. Sugar, honey, or a sweet vegetable. It distracts from heat and works better than most people expect.
  4. Add acid. Lemon, lime or vinegar cuts through and rebalances.
  5. Add starch alongside. Rice, bread, potato or noodles on the plate. The most practical answer at the table.
  6. Remove visible chilli pieces if you can see them. It helps a little and costs nothing.

Why water makes it worse

Capsaicin is oil-soluble and not water-soluble. Drinking water spreads it around the mouth without removing any of it, which is why a glass of water after something very hot gives a moment of relief and then makes things worse.

Milk, yoghurt and lassi work because the fat dissolves the capsaicin and the casein protein helps lift it off the receptors. This is not folklore — it is why every cuisine that cooks with a lot of chilli serves something dairy or coconut alongside.

Alcohol also dissolves capsaicin, though a drink strong enough to help is usually not what you want mid-meal. Bread and rice work mechanically, by absorbing and physically wiping.

Where the heat lives

The pith and seeds
Most of the capsaicin is in the white pith the seeds attach to, not the seeds themselves. Remove the pith to reduce heat while keeping the chilli flavour.
Variety
Enormously variable, and not reliably predictable from appearance. Two chillies from the same plant can differ considerably.
Cooking time
Long cooking distributes the heat throughout a dish rather than reducing it. A chilli simmered for an hour makes everything hot.
Whole against chopped
A whole chilli added and removed gives aroma with modest heat. Chopped or blended gives everything.
Dried against fresh
Dried chillies are more concentrated by weight and often much hotter than they look.

Avoiding it next time

Rescuing it, dish by dish

The general answers are dairy, fat, acid and bulk. Which one is available depends on what the dish is.

A curry or stew
Yoghurt, cream or coconut milk stirred in, plus more of the base. The most rescuable case.
A tomato sauce
More tomato, a little sugar, and a knob of butter at the end. Cream if the dish allows it.
A soup
Dilute with stock and add potato or a starchy vegetable, then re-season. Blend if it suits.
A stir-fry
Hard. Add more vegetables and serve with a lot of plain rice and something cold and dairy alongside.
A dressing or salsa
Make a second batch without chilli and combine. Usually the only real fix.
A dry rub already on meat
Scrape what you can off, and serve with a yoghurt or soured cream sauce.
At the table
Rice, bread, yoghurt, a sweet chutney and something cold. Not water and not beer.

Common questions

Does adding potato help?

Only by adding bulk, the same as any other addition. There is nothing special about potato.

Will it get milder overnight?

No — usually the reverse, as the heat distributes more evenly through the dish.

What is the best drink alongside spicy food?

A yoghurt drink such as lassi, or plain milk. Beer helps somewhat; water does not.

Why do some people find it much hotter than others?

Genuine differences in receptor sensitivity, plus habituation. Regular chilli eating really does raise the threshold.

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